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Would you date someone with a child?
I'm wondering what people's opinions are on dating people with children. I myself am almost 30 and have a child from a marriage that didn't work out. I would like some unbiased comments on this topic. Why is it so scary to date someone with a child?
 
Yummy Mummy October 04, 2007 03:05PM

7 comments
Unbiased comment: it's not so scary to date someone with a child.

I haven't done it before, but it's not because I've consciously avoided moms. However, I probably wouldn't want to casually date a single mom for too long. A serious relationship with someone with a child is fine, but I'd be worried that I'd be wasting her time if I wasn't that into it. That may not make sense, but that's my gut response.

Trev October 05, 2007 09:46AM
I agree with Trev. Nothing inherently scary about it, assuming she still likes to do the same things I do and have fun.

For me, the issue would be whether the girl would want to have more kids. I've always thought I'd raise a kid from birth, so if the girl was dead set on not having any more kids, it might possibly be an issue.

Yummy, what've you heard?






Razz October 05, 2007 05:13PM
Thanks for your opinions. I have dated many guys who are very accepting of the fact that I have a child...others I can see want to run at the first mention of it, before getting to know what I'm all about. That's very frustrating, but I wouldn't want anyone in my life that's judgemental like that anyway, so I have to keep reminding myself of that.

Some of my guy friends tell me to be upfront about it, while others tell me to not scare guys off by telling them I have a child before they get to know who I am...I'm an upfront girl, so I tend to tell them sooner rather than later, rather than risking the guy thinking I was being deceptive by not telling them early on in the dating game.

I like to think that my daughter doesn't scare guys away, but filters out the ones I wouldn't want to date anyway! I'm more likely to get a good guy if he is willing to get to know me knowing I have a daughter, and possibly get two great girls in his life :)

Yummy Mummy October 08, 2007 06:00PM
So what makes u such a yummy mummy?

Computer Guy December 05, 2007 11:28PM
haha...how do you answer that w/out coming off as arrogant? Well i guess I should try since I was the one who created the name :-S

Ok, so I know I'm an attractive lady. I never have a problem meeting guys and getting dates. But once they find out I'm a mom it sort of scares them off, and I don't really know why. I have everything together. I'm not looking for a father, or a paycheck. I own a home, have a great job, am fun :), intelligent, down-to-earth, and I know I must be attractive b/c I never have a problem meeting guys when I'm out with friends. But I'm a mom... therefore ...yummy mummy.

I realize that most of the guys I'm dating are still young and have never been married (I was quite young when I got married and had my daughter), so I think they feel like I'm damaged goods or something. They want a pure marriage with someone who has never been married before. They want children with someone who has never had children before. I get that.

I'm just going to be patient and have fun for now...b/c dating is fun :)

Yummy Mummy December 10, 2007 06:02PM
Hi Yummy,

Well the funny thing is I have always met woman who have had kids. The majority of the ladies I have spoken to have had kids mostly just one.

I used to have a preference which was to be with someone who did not have child or who was not married for all the reasons u said above, but now that I am a little older that has changed.

I would not care if a woman had a child as long as she wanted more...do u want more? I would not care if she was married as long as she would do it again especially knowing what lacked in the previous marriage.

It depends on the age group ur dating. I am young over 25 and I would def settle down with a lady who had a child especially if she was yummy.

When I was younger a lot of my friends did not want to deal with woman who had kids for these reasons:

1. Issues with the father
2. Getting attached to the child and it not working out
3. The mother cannot just pick and just go like to a movies
4. Some ladies do not look good after 1 child so what happens after 3

I also think it depends on how old the child is also. If the child is like 1 it makes it harder then if the child was 14.

I have seen mother who have 2 kids and look HOT so ur not damaged goods trust me. The guys ur meeting are still in that stage which I was in but not any more.

Hats off to all those yummy mummies who are single and still looking good. I hope when I find a wife and we have kids she is still yummy and I still rush to get home to see her...LOL.

I have friends who drive home slowly b/c their wife is not a yummy mummy any more....:(

Yum Mum would u date a guy who had a kid? How many?

Can I see how yummy u are? LZION99athotmaildotcom

Ciao!

Computer Guy December 11, 2007 12:06AM
ha...cool. I just added you to my msn. campfire girl...that's me.

Yummy Mummy December 11, 2007 05:27PM




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